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Friday, April 28, 2023

My Path to Understanding Woke-ism

My Path to Understanding Woke-ism


I’m a historian at heart. With all things, I seek to understand where something may have started and how it may have become so prevalent in our daily lives. For the past 25 years working for a major corporation, I witnessed firsthand the transformation from “nice to have” to “need to have” to “required” when speaking about diversity, equity and inclusion. At one point earlier on in my career, I was part of the Diversity Leadership team and took an extensive 3 day course to not only learn more about it but be able to bring that learning back to my colleagues. I found the course helpful and it provided a solid foundation for me to further grow in my understanding. Then, things went off the rails a bit. 


If you haven’t noticed, social issues are wholly intertwined in our political system, perhaps more than ever. These social issues are referred to as identity politics. In my time within the workforce, there was always an underlying presence of social issues. For instance, I worked for a company that was very LGBTQ+ friendly, which I had zero issue with, having found that to be a plus in the category of inclusion. But, with all the social upheaval within the US over the past 5-10 years, the social issues that were once in the background were now placed at the forefront of my daily work life and I wanted to understand why. 


The expansion started small, with the addition of pronouns at the bottom of our emails. At the time, I had no idea why we were doing this but was of course educated on it as time passed. Additional diversity courses were rolled out and, as a manager, multiple required diversity classes that I needed to take each quarter and/or year. Also, as a manager, I was required to have diversity conversations with my team, discussing specific topics relating to diversity, equity and inclusion. I’m not here to say any of this is bad, the Diversity Leadership team I mentioned above provided a very positive experience for me. Having said that, what was once a small portion of my daily/weekly work life became much more engrossing as time passed. 


I’m never one to be told what to do. It’s a thing with me, always has been. I take the freedoms we have in America seriously, my civil liberty is at the core of many decisions I make in life. The fact I was being told to think a certain way, act or react to something based on a social standard always rubbed me the wrong way. I’d be remiss if I didn’t say this played a part in me leaving corporate life, it absolutely did. But why did it come to that? What is woke-ism and how did we get here? 

 

I will say, there’s an immense amount of information I could provide here. I’m going to attempt to summarize what I’ve found out through my research thus far, you can take what I have and research yourself to further your understanding. I say thus far because I’m in no way done learning and don’t think I ever will be. That’s an important aspect to remember as I’ll discuss in more detail later regarding conversations. 


In order to understand the idea of being woke, it’s important to understand the theories espoused today are based on schools of philosophical thought. I’ll be the first to say, philosophy can be both confusing and frustrating when you dig into it. For the purpose of this discussion, I’m going to keep it extremely high level by touching on the philosophy of Critical Theory and by quickly defining wokeism. 


What is Critical Theory?


A quick search provides the following definition: 

A philosophical approach to culture, and especially to literature, that seeks to confront the social, historical and ideological forces and structures that produce and constrain it. The term is applied particularly to the work of the Frankfurt School. 

Ref: Oxford Languages 


As the name would imply, critical theory applies a “critical” lens to societal constructs. For instance, American history. Why has our history been told the way it has? Who wrote the books our kids are reading? When were they written? Should they be rewritten or re-thought? The idea of Critical Race Theory (as the name would suggest) was built from the foundational concepts of Critical Theory. 


Ok, we’re off to a good start. You’ve familiar with the 1960s I presume? Sexual revolution? Political upheaval, etc? Sound familiar? What’s happening in America today with regard to our racial divides, sexual exploration and pushing of societal boundaries are directly descended from philosophical principles born out of the 1960s, which were based on concepts originally devised from Critical Theory along with the work of Sigmund Freud. 


As part of the 1960s social upheaval, there were philosophers who felt liberal Democrats weren’t doing enough to move the needle on societal change. These philosophers influenced a group of people referred to as Radicals, influencing their political and social beliefs. One of the more famous philosophers of this period was Wilhem Reich, who coined the term “sexual revolution.” Reich advocated for progressive sexual education and promoted sexual liberation, access to contraceptives, and the acceptance of divorce and abortion. This flies in the face of what was once believed in 1950s America and previously, providing an awakening for many Americans leading to what became the Feminist movement, Black Power movement and additional movements to remove the historical constraints perceived to be holding America back from our true promise as a great nation with an enlightened population. 


What is Woke? 

Someone who is woke is very aware of social and political unfairness. 

(Ref: Collins Dictionary) 


I think the key word within this definition is “very,” as in, almost fanatically religious about their understanding. The woke agenda that we witness within our political system is primarily owned on the Democratic side of the aisle with the more far left, Radical or Progressive constituents carrying the banner for change. Not unlike MAGA and non-MAGA Republicans, the Democratic party is now split in two, the Liberals on one side and the Progressives on the other. Liberals would be positioned more in line with FDR, JFK and even Bill Clinton. The Progressives would be aligned with Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez and a large population of the young people within our country. This is a result of university professors and administrators accepting the core beliefs briefly mentioned above by philosophers of the 1960s such as Wilhelm Reich with students advancing those beliefs outside the university system upon graduation. 


What’s interesting is that at one point, America was a nation of believers, with God or a God-like power at the center of our daily lives. With the advent of technology, this belief has dwindled to the point of almost fringe like levels within our nation’s youth. The religious fervor that was once a staple in our society has been replaced with the Religion of Woke. Members take to Twitter and Instagram to espouse their beliefs, Hollywood uses their influence to further the cause and corporations have signed on to ensure all employees conform while replacing Jesus and God with idolatry in the form of social media influencers. Is this bad? To the extent it’s pushed on people, I think it is, but to call all of something good or bad while allowing zero room for acceptance would be shortsighted in my opinion. I tend to think I’m like most people, go about your life and I’ll go about mine but I don’t want you telling me what I should do or think, that’s encroaching on my civil liberties and rights as an American citizen. 


I love my daughter, she’s the light of my life. She’s my child and I’ll love her no matter what, always. If she were to sit me down at 12 years old and tell me she didn’t feel comfortable in her body, my wife and I would have a frank discussion with her to understand why. Honestly, I don’t always feel comfortable in my body either and I’m 47 years old. This is a normal concept, especially in the pre-pubescent stages of life. I’d want to understand if it’s more than that or simply confusion, hatred of self, or other. Does this make me woke? Maybe, or maybe I just love my kid and want what’s best for her. That’s my job as a parent and I don’t need anyone else telling me what to do or how to do it. 


People like to feel safe. The sky is blue, rain is wet, hugs from your Mom are warm, etc. Strip this away and we become unbound to our social norm and structure, compelling many not used to this phenomenon to not only rebel but get very upset about it. You’re messing with their lives and they’ve always known, it’s only natural for them to feel uncomfortable. Yet, when people (especially those older than say 30 years old) get upset or push back, there’s a general lack of understanding or empathy, even to the point of being downright cruel about it. As an example, I’m getting used to what is now a mainstream idea of a man transitioning to a woman. I’m not 100% accepting of it yet because the concept is foreign to me, but that doesn’t mean I’m not open to it or that I’m not willing to better understand it. 


Change takes time, it’s not easy. Conversations are the key to figuring out how best to approach our changing society. This past week, my wife and I went to Beaufort, SC for our annual trip on her birthday. As we were walking down the street and about to walk into a restaurant, we witnessed an argument between a white man and a black man, each of them in their 60s. The black man was calmly telling his counterpart how he was offended by something he said and how it was unnecessary. The white man replied, less calmly, but without rising to the level of yelling or furious anger. We didn’t linger; however, the moment had a big impact on me. Conversational discussion, rather than yelling or pushing our own agendas, is the proper discourse to achieve true change. I have zero doubt many of the things I learned when I was younger were either incorrect or embellished. I also realize America isn’t nearly as great as I’ve made it out to be in my own mind, but that doesn’t mean I’m not proud of the country my grandfather and father fought for. It doesn’t mean I can simply change on a whim. I’m not saying I can’t, and I’m not saying I’m not willing to learn, listen and perhaps change my mind, but that all starts with a conversation and/or performing your own research to come to your own conclusions. 


I’m not the most educated person in the world, I don’t have a PhD or even a Masters degree, but I did graduate from college and I read quite a bit. I consider myself educated, perhaps even over-educated on certain subjects. Many Americans are just like me, educated and pliable, willing to bend once they’ve done their research, but perhaps not on everything. That’s our right as American citizens, to be free to think and say what we want. Liberty or Death was a motto of the American revolution for a reason, the founders of our country would’ve literally died rather than have these freedoms taken away. I couldn’t agree more. Reshaping our society is a dirty business, we can’t wipe out the sins of the past nor should we. We need to have frank and open discussions about our differences while having patience with those who have been told one thing all their lives only to be told that’s not correct and should be changed. Maybe it should, but changing the world view on so many different aspects of our daily lives takes time. Before you decide to rise in anger over someone who disagrees with you, have a conversation. Understand why there is pushback or hesitation and attempt to educate them on your position. You’d be amazed at what you learn from each other and about each other.


Our differences are what makes this country great, we simply need to embrace them and have patience as we all continue to navigate this changing world. The religious movement known as the Great Awakening lasted years, in fact, there were actually two of them in the history of our country. We can’t expect our current Great Awokening to happen overnight.


Tuesday, April 25, 2023

Money Lessons Learned, Freedom Gained

 Money Lessons Learned, Freedom Gained 


I’m getting up in years so it’s fairly easy to show my age when it comes to the price of things. I’m pretty exasperated at how much things cost, but I’m equally troubled at how much debt we as Americans have compiled over the years. The fact there are financial websites telling people to get a low interest credit card as a good money saving/making tool shows how far we’ve fallen from reality when it comes to our relationship with money. 


I’ll out myself to all those who aren’t aware. I made 3 mind numbing and terrible financial decisions in my mid 20's that qualifies me to at least have an opinion on how to avoid financial pitfalls in your life. Here was the scenario: 


I received what was called a STAR award for good performance at work, the award was for $2500. This was by far the most money I had ever received in my life. I’m pretty sure I had less than $100 in my savings account at the time and probably $300 in my checking account. I also had $4,000 in credit card debt, outstanding student loan debt of around $18,000 and a car payment of $170/month (more on that in a minute). I lived with a buddy of mine in an apartment and had no property to speak of. Let’s do the math on this real quick:


Assets: 

  • Checking: $300

  • Savings: $1,800 (with the award factored in, after tax)

  • Total: $2,100


Liabilities

  • Credit Card: $4,000

  • Student Loans: $18,000

  • Car: $170/month*

*The car was essentially a “lease to own” scenario, whereby in 3 years I could either buy the car or trade it in; however, I had to stay below 12K miles per year. Alright, it was a fancy lease that my Dad and I got duped into doing. I didn’t own it, so it was worthless to me as an asset. 

  • Total: $22,000 (not including the car) 


As you can see, I was upside down $19,900 liabilities compared to assets. In any financial terms you want to use, I was broke and had essentially no assets to my name. Did I care at the time? I did not. I used the $1,800 I had in savings and bought a very used boat (hey, it came with a trailer)! Well, that’s great, but now I need a car to tow the boat. In order to keep costs down and use “good fiscal responsibility” I leased a Jeep for $337/month. So, instead of paying down some of my debt and attempting to set myself up to buy a house in the near future, I decided to use this money to buy two things I absolutely didn’t need that would undoubtedly provide me with limited joy and a ton of headaches down the road. 


Long story short, I used the boat 4-5 times total and it was in the shop at least that many times. After sinking another $500 into it (where did that money come from? I’m not sure, but probably credit cards) the engine died on me the final time taking it out and I barely got it out of the water (for my friends who were there, this is a story that will never die, much to their delight). I eventually got rid of the boat which left me with a Jeep I didn’t want, a lease payment I didn’t want and more debt with zero to show for it. Learned my lesson right? Not quite yet. 


My next major purchase was a condo about 10 minutes outside Uptown Charlotte. The location was amazing and the condo itself was pretty cool, albeit very small (around 600 sq feet). I wanted this condo and was going to do what was necessary to get it done. Once again, price became the main driver so I was talked into getting an interest only mortgage loan (this is before I worked for a mortgage company BTW). This knocked a couple hundred bucks off my payment each month, which was great. What I didn’t consider was paying more on the loan than the monthly payment in order to knock down some of the principle over time. I just made the monthly payment without even thinking about the long term effect of never putting anything extra toward paying the mortgage down. Why? Because I didn’t know any better. I thought I was doing the right thing by simply owning a condo in the first place. This is half true of course, the other half is actually using good financial sense to pay down the loan. 


By this point you’re wondering, how did this guy work at a bank and why should I listen to him? Because these are the same mistakes most of America is making, sometimes without even knowing it. Thankfully I made mine when I was relatively young so I could learn from them and reverse course, not everyone can be so lucky to see the signs. In my previous article I wrote about the price of cars and the fact they’re ridiculously expensive, with the average new car costing well over $45,000. Even with a low interest loan your payment would more than likely exceed $500 a month or more depending on how much you put down. So many of us think, “I can afford that payment each month.” That may be true, but that doesn’t mean you should buy it, especially if this will have an impact on the health of your savings over time. 


A quick search reveals 42% of Americans have less than $1,000 in their savings account, 58% have less than $5,000 in their savings account while the median savings account balance amounts to $5,300. (https://www.zippia.com/advice/american-savings-statistics/). If you own a home, and your HVAC unit conchs out on you, it’s most likely going to cost more than $6,000 to replace. This is not a good outlook for most Americans and certainly wasn’t for me at one point in my life. So, what changed? 


I got older and hopefully wiser, but the Jeep, boat and condo fiasco taught me important lessons about the value of the money I made and that I shouldn’t automatically spend it as soon as it hit my hands. I began to remember the “needs vs. wants” lectures I had in the college economics courses and they finally began to ring true. When it’s your money, it’s certainly easier for bad decisions to impact you quicker and more distinctly. If my parents had bought me the boat or the car I’m not sure I would have cared as much. Since it was my money, the impact was greater and more profound. 


Obviously many Americans haven’t learned their lesson. I realize it’s hard to save and it’s even harder for those who are living paycheck to paycheck or working 2-3 jobs to get by. You’re not the people I’m speaking to as your problems go deeper than anything we can solve in a 2-3 page article. But what about the married couple who both have six figure jobs, drive luxury cars and live in a house they clearly can’t afford? What are they doing and why? You can’t afford a $115,000 Lincoln Navigator! In order for America to sustain and thrive, we all need to brush aside our reliance on banks and lending in general, get rid of credit cards and buy only the things we can afford. Crazy concept right? Our parents and grand-parents did it, we can too.  


Money isn’t that difficult to understand when you use basic common sense. If you have a ton of credit card debt, a mortgage, car loans, etc., you don’t have nearly as much money as you think you do. When you have a moment, take part in a little exercise:


  • Take a notepad and draw a line down the middle

    • On one side put “Assets”

    • On the other side put “Liabilities” 


Assets would be things you actually own or money you have in certain accounts (checking, savings, 529 Plans, etc). Liabilities would be loans you have outstanding (credit cards, mortgage, car loans, etc). Keep in mind, if you have a loan outstanding, it’s not your asset. You’re on your way to owning it, but you don’t own it yet. 


Feel good about where you are? If the answer is yes, that’s fantastic. If the answer is no, it’s time for you to have your Jeep/boat/condo moment and get better. You can start by stop buying sh*t you don’t need and begin living within your means. No, you don’t need to take that girls trip to Vegas or go play golf with the boys in Myrtle Beach. Or, if you do, make sure you’re within budget and don’t extend outside of what you want to spend. 


Live within your means and stop paying attention to what others have. It’s just stuff, it doesn’t matter. Ownership of the things you have provides you with an immense sense of freedom. The freedom to put your money aside for things you want to buy rather than attempting to keep up appearances with those around you. Make smart decisions with your money, you’ll be amazed what can happen.You may even be able to start a blog, take some time off work and become a Manny, like me. 



Tuesday, April 18, 2023

It's Expensive Out There America

 It’s Expensive Out There America  

As of this writing, the average American has $7,297 (per Lending Tree, as of December 2022) in credit card debt, $7,297! According to the same report, nearly 46% of cardholders say it would take them more than a year to pay off their balance, while 65% say they carry a balance at least some of the time. Normally I’d say a majority of that is ripe with things purchased over time that I’d file in the “want” vs. “need” category; however, given how expensive everything is at the moment, I think more and more people are using credit cards or any other access to credit simply to survive. 


Hopefully you would have already read my other article (You Left a Six Figure Job To Do What? Are You Nuts?) so you know that I’ve recently left a lucrative job and career for the unknown abyss of freelance writing. As I’ve already mentioned, this is both terrifying and exciting. The most terrifying aspect has to do with finances. What was once a very comfortable life that afforded my wife and I the ability to do just about anything (within reason) has turned into a budget crunching, stressful, worrisome time where I’m simply attempting to keep us within the budget I’ve laid out for success. 


We had planned for me to leave my job for years…yes, years. Aside from small improvements to the house and a couple of larger ticket items, we shied away from expensive vacations, purchasing new cars and spending our money on needless items like clothes and the like. This allowed us to pay off all outstanding debt while placing enough money in savings where we were comfortable making the transition to a one income household for the foreseeable future. Having said that, I’m also a worrier by nature and never think there’s enough in the bank. I’m pretty sure I’d be this way even if I were Elon Musk, concerned that my stock price or total portfolio may waver by a billion here or there as I nervously sip champagne on my yacht. 


Although financial worries can be somewhat stressful, I also consider it to be a good thing. It’s allowed me to place myself in the shoes of many other Americans facing similar budget crunching scenarios. It’s also allowing me to view the world from a different lens, one I haven’t looked through in awhile. When life is comfortable financially, you simply choose not to buy something but in the back of your mind always feel good knowing that you can. There’s a comfort in knowing and that it is indeed a choice, not one that's being made for you. You’re making the wise decision for you and your family’s future. Not everyone has this luxury and it’s extremely easy to forget the feeling. Getting it back gives you an instant connection with those who may be struggling, providing empathy while making you appreciative for the things you have. 


You also begin to notice things like never before, for instance, the price of cereal being $7 a box (when did that happen)!? The price of gas fluctuating on a daily/weekly basis and flank steak all of a sudden priced as though it were filet mignon by some retailers. Corned beef? This used to be a cheap cut of meat, I’ve seen some reach as high as $40. Perhaps it’s simply me getting old, but I don’t think so, everything is most definitely out of whack price wise. 


How about cars? I recently received my Car and Driver Top 25 Cars Worth Waiting For issue. I’ve gotten C&D for 25+ years and this is my favorite issue aside from their 10 Best Cars list. This year was a bit of a dud for me. Most of the cars featured, aside from a few, are completely unaffordable. When did cars become $80-100K? Did you realize the average price of a car is now over $45K? Keep in mind, the average American household income is a bit over $70K, something’s not adding up here. No wonder most Americans are in debt, who can afford such things? Even when I had a full time job I wouldn’t have wanted to spend another $50K on a car (we bought my wife a Honda Pilot in 2018, which was a shade below that, and it hurt me to do it). You can buy a used car of course, but as we all know, these are overpriced as well. 


Something has to give here, life is way too expensive. I read an article the other day that the average home price went from $392K in 2020 to a whopping $544K in 2022, wow! Again, if you’re a first time home buyer, how are you possibly affording that? Answer, you’re not, which is why so many millennials are either putting off homeownership, living in their parents basement or both. The lucky ones among us were able to buy a house after the Great Recession, when prices were rock bottom. Rarely do prices come back down once they’ve gone up, what are average American’s to do? And please spare me the political argument of this party or that party, whatever. Figure it out and let’s fix this, all of it. Here in the real world, we’re tired of overpaying for just about everything. Put aside identity politics for a few minutes, stop arguing on Twitter and fix the financial issues impacting our lives on a daily basis. 


I recently did a personal inventory asking myself, “what more do you need?” Aside from your basic essentials (food, soap products, etc) there wasn’t a whole lot that I needed to buy for myself in the foreseeable future. There are always things I’d like to buy, but do I really need them? Similar to having a savings cushion to fall back on, it’s also comforting to know you’re good for a while, there’s nothing you truly need to survive. My kids may be a different story, but we’ll tackle that as it comes. 


Perhaps our stressed economy is a good thing for all of us. Maybe more Americans will take a look in the mirror and make better choices, who knows? On second thought, forget what I said about Twitter. It may be a good idea to befriend Elon Musk so we can worry along with him on that yacht of his, ya know, in case our savings don’t come through in the end.


Friday, April 14, 2023

Creativity Doesn't Come Easy

Creativity Doesn’t Come Easy


Hopefully you would have already read my other article (You Left a Six Figure Job To Do What? Are You Nuts?) so you know that I’ve recently left a lucrative job and career for the unknown abyss of freelance writing. I’ve written 3-4 articles over the past week or so, none of them worthy of putting in “digital print” in my opinion. I’ve been struggling with what I’ve been wanting to write, trying to think of engaging ideas people would want to read. Then it dawned on me, write about that. Write about the fact that it’s hard, really hard, to constantly be thinking of new material that you both like and you think other people would like as well. 


This got me thinking about anything and anyone creative, this must be what many musicians and artists of any kind go through on a daily basis. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not lumping myself in with artists at this point, but it’s amazing how quickly you begin to understand the mindset when you’re attempting to do anything creative, whether that’s building a birdhouse for your backyard or attempting to write a hit song. 


Speaking of hit songs, my daughter had a 90s station on the other day and a Nirvana song came on from their Nevermind album. Quick aside, I’m a big Nirvana fan, having read multiple books on both the band and Kurdt Cobain, needless to say I was happy to hear one of my favorites (Lithium) and equally excited my daughter wanted to listen as well. As we were listening, I commented out loud how amazing it was that Cobain was able to write this song (and the entire album for that matter) before the age of 25. The amount of God-gifted talent it took to write the lyrics and music at such a young age is incredible when you think about it. The fact he was able to accomplish so much prior to his death at 27 seems unfathomable to me. Nirvana’s music has become synonymous with the 90s, the grunge movement and indeed my entire generation. I also commented that I’d never be able to create something so lasting and impactful, quickly digressing to self loathing and self pity rather than simply enjoying the music and being inspired to either write about it or something else. 


When you have a job, even one you dislike, it’s a fantastic daily distraction for your mind. You have to get up at a certain time, be to work at a certain time and stay there for hours on end. Your mind is actively engaged elsewhere, dealing with the daily problems of emails, instant messages and conference calls. There’s no time to sit and think with yourself or be vulnerable to the world, you’re constantly engaged in other things and have the ability to dream of what it may be like to remove those barriers and just “be.” I’m here to tell you, it’s interesting. When you remove all those barriers that have been in your way and begin to dream, you’ll not only be surprised by the result, you’ll most likely find that both fear and self doubt will easily creep in if you’re not careful. 


What I’m learning is, you need to embrace the unknown and simply go with it. It’s like a rebirth of who you are and what you want to be, which is of course going to be hard. I’m reminded of the line in The Matrix when Neo asks Morpheus “why do my eyes hurt,” and Morpheus responds, “you’ve never used them before.” I’m certainly not going to be a Neo/Superman/Jesus character whose sole purpose is to save the world; however, I’m beginning to understand that my purpose can be more than simply email responses to a colleague regarding a past due project and what our next steps will be to get it back on track. 


Allowing yourself time, swaths of real time throughout the day, provides a unique perspective on all those who came before you and did something creative with their time. The amount of effort, angst and self doubt must have driven some of them to the point of going mad. We take so many of these things for granted, from the washer and dryer that saved us literally hours and days of work to the laptop I’m using to write this article, the inventions that drive our life and the people behind them amaze me. What’s most amazing is the thought that went into them but also the sheer will to see them come to life. I’ve got 5-10 thoughts that go through my head each day, some of them are viable while others most likely aren’t, but I’ve done nothing with them due to any number of reasons. Facing your fears, having belief in what you’re doing in the face of perceived outside doubt or self doubt are essential to achieving success in whatever it is you’re doing. Perhaps this is a known fact that everyone already has at the ready, but the newfound time I have to think about has made this very clear to me. 


The point of all this is to say, many of you have reached out after my original article expressing a similar desire to quit your job and move on to something new. I think that’s great, I’m excited that you’d look at anything I may have written as either inspirational or a way to kickstart your next move. What I’d say is this, be ready. Be ready to: 


  • Sit in silence with your thoughts

  • Wake up and wonder what you’re going to do that day

  • Wonder if you can be as great as others think you can be 

  • Think, you have time for that now 


Unlatching the chains that bind us is both great and scary at the same time. I think we’re conditioned to have a set schedule that we live by from a young age. You wake up and go to school from the age of 6 to 18 years old, followed by either college or work. If you go to college, you get a bit of a reprieve in that you may only have 2-3 classes per day and you have tons of free time otherwise to hang out with friends and be a young adult. Your first job may also be fairly simple to do allowing you time after work to do whatever it is you want, without the stresses of marriage, kids, etc. The point is, you’re straddled to something from the age of 6 to when you retire in your mid-50s if you’re lucky or mid-60s as most will need to do. This is normal, this is the cycle of our human condition that we’ve become accustomed to. 


If you’re looking to make a change, I’d challenge you to take that leap. You don’t have to do what I did and resign entirely with nothing else at the ready. I’ve said this before, I’m very lucky to have a supportive wife who has a great career that affords me the ability to be writing this very article. Take it from someone who hates change, it’s not going to be easy. Like Neo, the world will be new to you in many ways and you’ll be using your eyes for the first time. Not since you were a child, will you have the freedom that you now possess. What you do with it will be the key. As for me, you’re reading what I’m doing. Although it’s not a hit song in the same stratosphere with the greatness of Nirvana, it's allowed me to continue dreaming that one day it could be, and that's a pretty amazing feeling.


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